This exact week, three years ago, I sat in two very different meetings with two very different founders.
\ The first founder spent our entire lunch explaining why his startup wasn’t growing: The market timing wasn’t right. His investors weren’t giving him enough runway. His team wasn’t executing his vision properly. The economy was against him. By dessert, I had heard every possible reason why success was just out of reach — none of which had anything to do with him.
\ Three hours later, I met the second founder in her cramped office. Her startup was facing similar headwinds, but her response was radically different: “I underestimated the sales cycle length. My initial go-to-market strategy was wrong. I’m working on three specific changes to fix this.” No excuses, no blame-shifting — just ruthless ownership and clear-eyed assessment.
\ Guess which founder I’m betting on?
\ Here’s the thing about people who bet on themselves:
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\ I’ve spent the last decade investing in and working with entrepreneurs, and I’ve noticed a pattern so consistent it’s practically a law of nature: Success follows those who take ownership. Not sometimes. Not usually. Always.
\ Think about the most successful person you know personally. Not Elon Musk or Steve Jobs — someone you’ve actually observed up close. I bet they share this trait: When things go wrong, they look in the mirror first.
\ The world is filled with talented people. It’s bursting with great ideas. But talent and ideas are commodities. The truly rare element — the one thing I’ve learned to bet everything on — is the capacity for radical ownership.
\ Because here’s what I know for sure: In the long run, the person who owns their failures will outperform the genius who outsources blame.
Every. Single. Time.
\ Want proof?
\ Let me show you what radical ownership really looks like, and why it’s the only reliable predictor of success I’ve ever found…
The Ownership Divide: What Really Separates Winners from Almost-WeresLet’s get specific about what betting on yourself actually means because it’s not what most people think.
\ It’s not about confidence. I’ve met plenty of confident people who crumble at the first sign of failure.
\ It’s not about optimism — some of the best self-believers I know are pragmatic pessimists.
\ And it’s definitely not about taking credit when things go right.
\ Betting on yourself is about one thing: Taking radical ownership when things go wrong.
The Tale of Two VPsLast year, I watched two VPs handle the same crisis: A major product launch that flopped spectacularly.
\ VP #1 had a ready arsenal of explanations:
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\ Every explanation was plausible. Some were probably true. None were useful.
\ VP #2 took a different approach: “I missed important customer signals. I rushed the launch because I was too focused on hitting a date rather than hitting the mark. Here’s my plan to fix it.”
\ Same situation. Same level of talent. Radically different ownership levels.
\ Guess which VP turned things around within six months? Guess which one is now a successful CEO?
The Ownership TestWant to spot someone who truly bets on themselves? Listen to how they tell their story. The ownership divide shows up in language:
\ Non-Owners say:
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\ Owners say:
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\ Notice the pattern? It’s not about taking blame for everything that goes wrong. It’s about taking ownership of your response to what goes wrong.
The Price of Ownership (And Why Most Won’t Pay It)Here’s why true ownership is rare: It’s painful.
\ It requires you to embrace uncomfortable truths. To look at your failures without flinching. To acknowledge your role in every setback.
Most people won’t pay this price. They choose the comfort of excuses over the pain of ownership. And I get it — ownership hurts. But here’s what they miss:
\ The pain of ownership is temporary. The cost of avoiding it is permanent.
\ Every time you choose comfort over ownership, you:
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\ But when you embrace ownership:
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\ This is why I bet on owners: Not because they fail less, but because they turn failures into fuel.
\ Let me show you why.
The Psychology of Self-Believers: Why Ownership Creates Unstoppable ForceIn my quarterly founder meetings (I mentor/advise a few companies), I keep seeing the same pattern play out.
\ Just last quarter, I met with three founders whose startups were facing critical moments.
\ Same market conditions. Similar challenges. Radically different responses.
\ Two of them spent our entire meetings explaining:
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\ They’re still in the same spot weeks later.
\ The third founder? She walked in with:
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\ Her company grew 40% last month.
\ Here’s what’s fascinating: She wasn’t smarter or more experienced than the others. She just had one crucial advantage — she believed she could influence outcomes.
The Science of Self-AgencyWhen people take ownership, it demonstrates a very powerful perspective shift.
\ Psychologists call this “locus of control” — the degree to which people believe they have power over their lives. But I’ve noticed something the psychology textbooks miss:
\ Locus of control isn’t fixed. It’s a muscle. And like any muscle, it grows stronger with use.
\ Every time you take ownership, you:
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\ It’s a virtuous cycle that compounds over time.
The Ownership AcceleratorHere’s what makes this psychology so powerful: Ownership creates velocity.
\ Think about two people facing the same problem:
\ Person A believes external factors are to blame:
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\ Person B owns the situation:
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\ By the time Person A finishes their analysis of why something won’t work, Person B has already tried three solutions and learned from the results.
The Counter-Intuitive EdgeBut here’s the part that surprises most people: Owners don’t just recover faster — they actually experience less stress during failures.
Research in performance psychology shows that feeling in control, even during negative situations, significantly reduces stress. It’s not the failure that crushes people — it’s the feeling of helplessness.
\ This explains why I’ve seen owners remain calm during crises that send non-owners into panic:
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This psychological edge creates a gap that widens over time.
\ While non-owners are:
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\ Owners are:
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\ This is why I bet on owners: Their psychology creates velocity, and velocity creates results.
The Ultimate Self-Bets: Stories of Radical Ownership in ActionLet me share some examples that prove this isn’t just theory.
\ We’re talking about real people who bet on themselves when everyone else bet against them.
Sara Blakely: The $5 Billion Self-BetBefore Spanx became a household name, Sara Blakely was a fax machine saleswoman with $5,000 in savings and an idea for footless pantyhose. What happened next is a masterclass in ownership:
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\ She didn’t wait for permission. She didn’t blame the system. She owned every obstacle and found a way around it.
\ Today, she remains the youngest self-made female billionaire in history.
Howard Schultz: The Coffee Shop That Almost Wasn’tIn 1987, Howard Schultz had to raise $3.8 million to buy Starbucks. After 242 rejections from investors, most people would have blamed the market, their pitch, or their timing.
\ Schultz’s response? “Every time I was rejected, I refined my pitch. The problem wasn’t the market — it was me. I hadn’t learned to tell the story right yet.”
\ He kept refining until he got his yes. Then he mortgaged his house to contribute his part of the deal.
\ That’s ownership. That’s betting on yourself.
Reed Hastings: The $40 Million MistakeHere’s my favorite ownership story. In 2011, Netflix CEO Reed Hastings made a massive mistake with Qwikster — attempting to split Netflix into two services. The stock plummeted 75%. The internet exploded in outrage.
\ Hastings’ response?
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\ Instead, he wrote directly to customers: “I messed up. I owe everyone an explanation… It is clear from the feedback over the past two months that many members felt we lacked respect and humility.”
\ Then he fixed it. Fast.
\ Most CEOs would have blamed “market conditions” or “customer misunderstanding.” Hastings owned it completely.
\ Today, Netflix is worth over $100 billion more than before that mistake.
Whitney Wolfe Herd: The Ultimate ComebackAfter leaving Tinder amid a sexual harassment lawsuit, Whitney Wolfe Herd could have played the victim. She had every excuse to give up on the dating app industry.
\ Instead, she took ownership of her future. She built Bumble — a dating app that put women in control. When competitors said the market was saturated, she ignored them. When critics said her approach wouldn’t work, she doubled down.
\ Result? She became the world’s youngest female self-made billionaire when Bumble went public.
The Pattern You Can’t IgnoreNotice what these stories have in common:
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\ But here’s what’s really interesting: Not one of them was the most qualified person to succeed in their field:
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\ They won because they bet on themselves when no one else would.
The Anti-Pattern: A Warning TaleContrast these with Elizabeth Holmes of Theranos. When problems emerged with her blood-testing technology, she:
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\ The result? The largest fraud case in Silicon Valley history.
\ The lesson? Success leaves clues. And the biggest clue is how people handle adversity.
The Hidden Signals: How to Spot Self-Believers Before Everyone Else DoesI’ve spent 20 years learning to spot people who bet on themselves.
\ Here’s my playbook (8 ideas) for identifying them before it becomes obvious to everyone else.
1. Listen to Their StoriesThe biggest tell is how people talk about their past.
\ In any story, listen for these critical differences:
\ Self-Believers Say:
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\ Non-Owners Say:
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2. Watch Their First Response to Bad NewsThe most revealing moment isn’t the failure — it’s the first 5 minutes after bad news hits.
\ Self-Believers:
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\ Non-Owners:
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Want to spot a self-believer in any meeting?
\ Watch what they do when things go off track.
\ Self-Believers:
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\ Non-Owners:
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Even email patterns tell a story. Look for these markers:
\ Self-Believer Emails:
\ “I dropped the ball on this. Here’s my plan to fix it: \n 1. [Specific action] \n 2. [Timeline] \n 3. [Success metric] \n Let me know if you need any adjustments to this plan.”
\ Non-Owner Emails:
\ “Unfortunately, due to circumstances beyond our control, several challenges have emerged… \n We’re hoping that once conditions improve…”
5. The Question HierarchyThe questions people ask reveal their ownership level.
\ Listen for this hierarchy:
\ Level 1 (Lowest Ownership):
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\ Level 2 (Medium Ownership):
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\ Level 3 (High Ownership):
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Watch out for these under-the-radar warning signs:
\ The Subtle Deflection:
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\ The Hidden Excuse:
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\ The Responsibility Shuffle:
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Give someone a broken system, process, or project. Then watch:
\ Self-Believers:
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\ Non-Owners:
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Look at their career trajectory:
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\ Non-Owners:
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\ Now, let me show you why spotting these patterns early is the secret to exponential returns, and how to use this knowledge to make better bets on people…
The Multiplier Effect: Why Backing Self-Believers Creates Compound ReturnsLet me share something I’ve never seen fail:
\ When you bet on someone who bets on themselves, you get more than linear returns.
\ You get a multiplier effect that compounds over time.
The Mathematics of Self-BeliefThink about what happens when you back someone who takes ownership:
\ They solve problems faster
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\ They learn faster
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\ They compound faster
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Here’s where it gets really interesting. Self-believers don’t just perform better — they create upward spirals in entire organizations:
\ They Attract Other Owners
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\ They Create Owner Cultures
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\ They Develop Other Owners
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Year 1: Basic Ownership
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\ Year 2: Expanded Ownership
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\ Year 3: Strategic Ownership
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\ This isn’t just career progression — it’s a complete transformation in how someone operates in the world.
\ Each year builds on the foundation of the previous one, creating compound returns that most people never achieve because they’re still stuck making excuses in year one.
The Viral Nature of OwnershipBut here’s the real magic: Ownership spreads. I’ve watched it happen countless times:
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\ Let me share one of the best examples of ownership I’ve seen: Brian Chesky in Airbnb’s early days.
\ In 2008, Airbnb was dying. They had maxed out their credit cards, were $40,000 in debt, and made just $200 a week. Most founders would have blamed the financial crisis, pointed to investor skepticism about their “crazy idea,” or simply given up.
\ Instead, Chesky took radical ownership of their biggest problem: their listings looked terrible.
\ Rather than blaming hosts for bad photos or complaining about their lack of resources, he borrowed a camera and personally went door-to-door in New York, taking professional photos of their properties.
\ He didn’t wait for permission, budget approval, or the “right time.”
\ He just did it.
\ The results were immediate: weekly revenue doubled to $400 the first week they replaced amateur photos with his professional ones.
This was ownership in action. No fancy metrics, no committees, no excuses.
\ Just solving the problem right in front of him.
\ But here’s where the compound effect kicked in. That simple act of ownership led to:
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\ This hands-on ownership mentality shaped Airbnb’s entire culture. Years later, when they faced trust and safety issues, they didn’t outsource the solution — they created a 24/7 customer support line and put founders on rotation for customer service shifts.
\ Today, when tech CEOs ask me about building ownership culture, I don’t quote statistics or share management theories.
\ I tell them about Chesky borrowing a camera and going door-to-door. Because that’s what real ownership looks like — solving problems yourself instead of waiting for someone else to solve them.
\ The company that started with a founder taking photos of apartments is now worth over $50 billion. But more importantly, it started with someone who refused to make excuses and chose to own the solution.
The Exponential EdgeThis is the exponential edge at work.
\ When you back self-believers like Chesky, you’re not just betting on their current capabilities — taking nice photos of apartments.
\ You’re betting on their capacity to turn small ownership moments into massive outcomes.
\ You’re betting on their ability to transform “I’ll fix this myself” into “We’ll build a global solution.”
\ You’re betting on someone who sees every obstacle as an opportunity to build something bigger.
\ You’re betting on:
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\ It’s like investing in a company that:
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But here’s the flip side — and this is crucial:
\ When you back non-owners, you don’t just get linear underperformance. You get:
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\ One non-owner in a key position can infect an entire organization with “it’s not my fault” syndrome.
Practical Application: How to Bet on Self-Believers (And Become One Yourself)Let’s turn all of this into actionable steps.
\ Here’s my framework for evaluating, developing, and becoming a true self-believer.
The Interview Matrix: How to Spot OwnersWhen evaluating someone, here are the exact questions I ask:
\ “Tell me about your biggest failure.” Listen for:
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\ “What’s the biggest mistake you’re currently learning from?” Look for:
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\ “What’s something you changed your mind about recently?” Watch for:
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The Development Framework: Building OwnersWant to develop ownership in yourself or others? Here’s my system:
\ Start Small
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\ Scale Up
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\ Systematize
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The Personal Transformation PlanAnd if you’re ready to become a true self-believer?
\ Here’s your 30-day plan:
\ Week 1: Ownership Audit
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\ Week 2: Response Rewiring
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\ Week 3: Action Acceleration
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\ Week 4: System Building
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If you’re leading others, here’s how to create an ownership culture:
\ Model It
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\ Reward It
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\ Teach It
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Stay alert for these personal ownership slips:
\ Language Drift
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\ Behavior Slides
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\ Mindset Traps
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Ask yourself daily:
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\ Remember: The goal isn’t perfection. It’s progress. Every time you catch yourself making an excuse, you have an opportunity to choose ownership instead.
The Final ChallengeHere’s your immediate action item:
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We’re living in extraordinary times:
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\ In this environment, there are two types of people:
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\ The gap between these two groups isn’t getting smaller. It’s exploding.
\ What I’ve learned after two decades of watching people succeed and fail:
\ Talent is common. Ideas are plentiful. Resources are available. But ownership? That’s rare.
\ And here’s the beautiful thing about ownership: It’s a choice. A choice you can make right now.
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\ Right now, you have a choice:
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Remember those two founders I mentioned at the start?
\ The excuse-maker’s company closed last week. The owner just raised their Series B.
\ The future belongs to those who bet on themselves.
\ The only question is: Are you ready to go all-in on you?
\ Because I know I’m ready to bet on people who bet on themselves.
\ Will you be one of them?
\ — Scott
\ P.S. If this resonated with you, I have a challenge: Take one thing you’ve been making excuses about. Own it completely. Take action today. Then email me what happened. I read every response.
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