How to Become Unbreakable

(Even When Life Dropkicks You in the Face)

\ You know that hollow feeling when something falls apart and you suddenly have no idea who you are anymore?

Yeah—been there.

\ For years, my identity was my business.

It was my purpose, my personality, my status, my therapy, my everything.

\ Until it wasn’t.

\ When I stepped away, I didn’t just lose a job—I lost myself.

\ No title. No daily structure. No adrenaline from closing deals.

\ Just silence, and a growing voice in my head asking:"

\ So… what now?"

\ That’s when I discovered something that changed how I see identity forever:

\ Identity diversification.(Yes, it sounds like something from your financial advisor. But hear me out.)

What the Hell Is Identity Diversification?

It’s exactly what it sounds like:

\ Don’t bet your entire sense of self on one thing.

When all your identity eggs are in one basket—your job, your relationship, your role as a parent, or your six-pack—it only takes one hit to send you spiraling.

\ It’s fragile. And fragility breaks.

Resilient people?

They build multiple identity pillars—so when one crumbles, the whole thing doesn’t collapse.

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Think of It Like This:

Your life is a table.

\ Every identity—friend, writer, builder, traveler, son, surfer, whatever—is a leg.

\ A table with one leg? Wobbly as hell

\ .A table with five? You could throw a bowling ball at it and it’ll still stand.

\ That’s the point.

How to Build More Legs (Without Losing Your Mind) Step 1: Audit Your Identity

\ Ask yourself:

“If I stopped doing what I do today, who would I be tomorrow?

\ ”If the answer is “I have no f***ing clue,” welcome. You’re not alone. And it’s time to expand.

Step 2: Follow the Curiosity

Try this exercise:

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• What excites me outside of work?

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• Who energizes me? Who drains me?

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• What have I always wanted to try but talked myself out of?

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• What values do I want to live by (not just post on LinkedIn)?

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• What environments make me feel alive?

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Then act on one thing.

\ Take a class. Start writing. Volunteer. Build something. Go somewhere.

\ Not for the money. Not for the followers. Just because it makes you you.

Step 3: Protect Your Identity from Burnout

This isn’t about doing more.

It’s about doing what fills your cup instead of draining it dry.

\ You don’t need 15 new hobbies.

You need meaningful ones.

\ You don’t need more social events.

You need authentic relationships.

\ Stay light. Stay curious. Stay aware.

A Quick Reality Check

There will be resistance.

\ You’ll feel guilty for “wasting time.

”You’ll question whether it’s worth it.

You’ll think, “What’s the point if I’m not making money from it?”

\ Here’s the point:

You’re building a version of yourself that doesn’t collapse when one part of your life gets nuked.

\ That’s not luxury. That’s insurance.

Final Thought

Your identity should be like a well-balanced portfolio.

\ Diversified.

Durable.

Resilient in the face of volatility.

\ Because your job isn’t promised.

Your six-pack won’t last.

And sometimes the things you love will fall apart.

\ But who you are?

That can’t be tied to one thing.

It has to be bigger.

\ Until next time,

Benoit